Kirstin Burckhardt and Lisa W Carlson are artists and friends working with performance and voice. They have developed a way of encountering each other which they call "brutal with love" (also the title of their collaborative book project). The performance "May I ask you?" at Errant Sound is the first time they publicly share their practice of voicing, deep listening, opening up and thereby gently inviting to a space for radical and caring honesty.